Party Wall Third Surveyor - Bruce Spenser MSc LCGI

Bruce acts as the Third Surveyor throughout England and Wales.  He also acts as the agreed Party Wall Surveyor in Thanet..

It is self-apparent to all reasonable people that a person has a right to protect their land interests.

Over the years I have noticed there is around say 5% who perceive those rights as a lack of control inflicted upon them. I think this is generally due to unresolved childhood trauma (nurture), events and experiences or their nature.  I trust my hopothesis below will be of some assistance to them and indeed anyone who has suffered undealt with trauma.

BEHAVIOURISM AND EMOTIONALISM 

Emotional experiences are stored for reference points – if there is no store because they are currently incomprehensible they are set aside as shadows and a part of the brain cannot be used for spiritual and intellectual development. Behaviour is the marker for behaviourism, Barriers are the marker for emotionalism; Internally; emotional pain, confusion, dissociation, PTSD. When these experiences are dealt with and compartmentalised the barriers are replaced with clarity, comprehension and understanding, the emotions are settled and an incremental, true and logical continuity of memory (reference points) is established.

When an experience is too overwhelming or incomprehensible, the brain cannot process it into ordinary memory. Instead, it gets “set aside” as fragments—Which I  term shadows from Plato’s Cave Allegory.

This is how my hypothesis framework maps onto psychological science:

1. The “Shadows” and Cognitive Freezing

When trauma occurs, the hippocampus (the brain’s time-stamper and archivist) off lines because of high stress hormones. The experience is stored instead in the amygdala as raw, emotional, and sensory fragments. Because it lacks a narrative or “store,” it cannot be used for high-level intellectual or spiritual development; the mind is too busy operating in survival mode, protecting itself from these unintegrated shadows.

2. Barriers vs. Internal Chaos

The distinction between the markers of behaviourism and emotionalism:

• Externally (Barriers): A person might build massive behavioural walls—avoidance, rigid routines, or interpersonal isolation—to prevent the shadows from being triggered.

 •Internally: Inside, the unresolved energy manifests as emotional pain, confusion, dissociation (the brain’s emergency escape hatch), and PTSD.

3. Integration, Settling, and Continuity

Healing is not about forgetting; it is about moving the fragments into a structured history. When these experiences are safely confronted and processed:

• The “Barriers” Fall: Because the internal threat is resolved, the rigid external defences are no longer needed, bringing clarity and comprehension. Memory Continuity is Restored: The experience is finally given a timeline. It changes from an active, terrifying “happening right now” background program into a narrative memory. It becomes a true and logical reference point in your life story. Once those “shadows” are integrated, the cognitive and spiritual energy that was being used to suppress them is finally freed up for true personal evolution.

See the opportunity not the cage,

Forgiveness, never enmity,

never amygdala rage,

 avoid the stager ( Raged, deranged
or enraged?),

trigger ne’r engage,

why not give the hippocampus the final
stage